Who and what are we, really?  Why are we here?

If you do not believe that we live multiple lives, perhaps thousands, entertain me for the purposes of reading this post and assume that we do.  I also suggest you do some investigating.  You could start with the internet, or some of the many books there are on the subject.  I prefer reading books over web content.  And yes, I see the irony in the fact that I am writing a blog.  Start some conversations with your family members and/or close friends.  There are many, many people who are believers and/or experiencers that like to keep these matters to themselves in order to avoid possible ridicule.

I believe we live several lives for a few reasons.  For one, it resonates with my heart.  It makes sense.  Also, I feel strong connections with certain eras; continents; cultures; space.  It’s deeper than a simple sense that I have been there before.  I can smell it, and feel it.  I have also done past life, current life and between lives regressions.  With each one, more information and clarity comes to me and serves me in this life.  I also saw my future self. 

Why are we here in this time, in this place, with these people, having these experiences?  We are here to experience and learn.  We are spiritual beings experiencing life in a three dimensional body and world in order to experience the unique joys and sensations of doing so, and to learn the lessons necessary in order to become fully enlightened  beings.  This life is just one short walk on our soul’s journey.  The desired outcome is for us to help humanity and this planet evolve and become a center of love for the entire universe.

I also believe we live multiple lives because of my experiences with my animals and animal communicators.  When I first heard that there were people who claimed to have this talent, and those who accepted that these people do, I had a good hearty laugh.  “Snake oil salesmen and suckers” was my opinion.  That all changed in 2005 when I had an unsolicited experience with one that involved the injury to, and subsequent passing of, my second horse.  It made a believer out of me.  That was followed by experiences with three other communicators and the passing of my dog in 2015, and again with the passing of my horse in May of 2017.  In my readings, I found other confirmations of this “normal” phenomenon.  Our animals remember their past lives.  They do not incarnate with voluntary amnesia as most humans do.  They remember their incarnations and their passings.  They know if they are coming back for another life, and in what form they will incarnate.  Yes, these creatures have souls, confirming what I always felt was true, even though the church of my youth taught otherwise. 

When I learned that our animals remember their past lives, I was disappointed that nearly all of us, including me, do not.  I have only read of a few people that do.  The recall of those to whom I am referring is astounding, and the facts of their past lives were confirmed.  I was disappointed that knowing any part of my past lives was not part of this life’s experience for me.  It seemed wasteful at best if it was by design, and if not, certainly an unfortunate state of affairs.  I wanted to know about mine, so in early 2015, I went to a hypnotherapist who could perform past life regressions.  That was my first.  Though I had glimpses and brief scenes revealed to me, there was nothing in particular from which I could build a complete picture.  Then one day, the vision I had was just of the ground, covered in small river rock.  I dismissed it as really nothing.  The very next day, I was sitting on a bench.  I rested my elbows on my thighs and looked down.  There was the exact image I had the day before.  It was more than a déjà vu.  The message I received was that the past was not important right now.  It is the present moment and where I am going – the journey – towards which I should focus my energies.  Knowing the specifics of a past life would not serve my soul and its goals in this one. 

More than a year passed and I was reading another resource that was discussing the purpose of our lives, the reasons we are here, etc., and then it hit me – the genius behind the fact that I could not remember my past lives.  Think of it this way.  If we are watching a movie or reading a book for the first time, the experience is intense because we don’t know what’s coming.  If we are here to learn new lessons, or relearn those we failed to learn in a previous life, the experience would not have the same impact.  We  would have an unfair advantage if we knew what was coming, the desired outcome, and what it was that we were supposed to do or learn.  Now it makes perfect sense to me.  Score another one for the genius of our Creator and perfection of the universe.

We chose to be here, in this time, in this place, with these people, in these bodies and in these circumstances.  All of us did, including the cripple, the mentally handicapped, the “minority,” and the homeless.  Is that hard to swallow?  When you look at the larger picture, in the context of there being a loving Creator, does it not make sense?  Does it not answer the question, “If there is a God, then why is there so much pain, sorrow and suffering in the world?”?  Why do we choose to have these life experiences?  The souls who choose extra-challenging circumstances are the strongest among us.  It was not enough for these brave souls to incarnate on “Earth . . . one of the most difficult, if not the most difficult, learning environments possible.”[1]   They chose to challenge themselves even more.  Earth is the “fast track”[2] in the school of soul development, and these souls are in the fast lane.  When I see a cripple, a homeless man, or a member of a persecuted minority, I have that in mind, show more respect, and acknowledge an extra brave soul.  

Also in early 2015, while I was looking into past life regressions, I learned about “soul constellations” from the same hypnotherapist.  In case you are not familiar, these are souls that belong to our “soul family.”  We are traveling as a group on our souls’ journeys towards enlightenment, and we play different roles in each others’ many different lives at many different times.  The practitioner with whom I was consulting at the time highly recommended that I pursue finding out the nature and identity of those who are part of mine.  I declined for three reasons.  For one, it wasn’t a front burner desire for me to know at the time.  Two, I was content to accept that the important people in my life – those playing the roles of my parents, siblings, partners, etc. – were part of my constellation.  Three, if it would serve me to know these things in this life, I would know them – now, or in the future.  The other side of the coin is that perhaps the universe was presenting me this opportunity as a path to heal from an inherited emotion or conflict.  I revisited this in early 2018, indirectly, during a Between Lives Soul Regression (BLSR).

What are our souls, exactly?  For starters, they are energyEverything is energy.  Whether it is matter or not, it is still energy.  Matter is just energy vibrating at a lower frequency.  Our souls, occupying this body made of “matter,” are pure energy, vibrating at a higher frequency than the matter. 

Our souls are our true selves, and are separate and distinct from our minds and bodies.  Let’s say they share a close “working” relationship.  Our souls are our higher intelligence; our hearts.  Our souls know they are here for the experiences that will allow them to move forward on their journey towards complete enlightenment.  Our souls will call to themselves the exact experiences they need in order to progress.  If our minds interfere with that path, or we fail to learn the lesson, our souls will call in more extreme circumstances in order for us to learn that lesson.  I have had intimate experiences with this.  I can see it so clearly now in retrospect, and it is a source of great joy to me to know that my soul is at the helm of my life.

Our minds are our consciousness.  Their purpose is to serve the heart.  Our hearts are the source of our desires.  They know the path that we should take.  Our hearts say “do this,” and our minds – if they are functioning in their proper place – figure out the details and make it happen.  Like a police force, or “good” government, it is there to “serve and to protect” the heart.  This is a great relationship, if it stays that way.  Unfortunately for most of us, over time, (and usually at an early age) the mind attempts to usurp power over the direction of our lives from the heart in order to “protect” it.  This would be fine, except by this time, the mind is responding as a false identity that it created.  It usually succeeds in gaining control  - at least to a degree - and if nothing else, creates a good deal of conflict both within ourselves and with those around us.  It can also make us feel guilty for following our hearts.

I think this is a good summary of the relationship between mind and soul:

“1. Soul is the spiritual nature of man while mind is man’s faculty of thinking and reasoning.
2. The soul is considered as the essence of man while the mind is in charge of man’s consciousness and thoughts.
3. Our desires stem from our souls while our minds decide what actions to take in order to achieve our desires.”[3]

The third component of our lives on this planet is the body.  It is separate from the soul and the mind.  “Our body has intelligence built into it from over millions of years of mankind’s evolution. The . . . (autonomic) . . . nervous system controls many of our body functions without any conscious input from us, like breathing, digesting, and sleeping; it maintains balance with its own intrinsic healing abilities.”[4]  Love your body.  After all, your soul chose it.  It is perfectly suited to your soul and it’s goals in this Earth walk.  Many of us – myself included – have felt disappointment at times over certain aspects of our bodies.  We may feel we are too overweight, too skinny, not tall enough, too tall, not strong enough, fast enough, smart enough, and on and on and on.  Those are judgments of the ego, brought about by our overstimulated personalities, social conditioning, and the relentless barrage of marketing messages that present a false ideal of who and what we should all strive to be, how we should look and act, what we should do, how we should live and in what, and what constitutes “success” – all models that feed the consumerism juggernaut.  That is not why we are here.  Remember this – your body is perfect as it is, at all times, for your soul and it’s purposes.  Love it.

A big part of our minds, and the reason we are led astray from our hearts desires, are our egos.  We all develop them, and they have many faces.  In his book, Whatever arises, love that: . . . , Matt Kahn summarizes the ego as “… the imaginary identity of an overstimulated nervous system . . .”[5] - the product of an inflamed personality.  Some of us believe we need our egos.  We think that is where our identity lies.  An identity is there all right, but it is a false identity.  It is a product of the mind, and the mind wants you to believe it is you because it does not want to be dethroned and put in its proper place as a servant to the soul.

The ego has many faces, and I highly recommend reading Matt Kahn’s aforementioned book in order to identify the nature of yours.  Once you do, you will recognize when it is responding, see the many faces of it, and how deep even the smallest of its roots go.  In my case, this has been a wonderful revelation and a source of great joy to me as I continue to dissolve the ever and ever smaller pieces of it, and I and all those around me benefit.

Another product of the mind is the “Emotional Pain Body.”  Eckhart Tolle defined it as the “ . . . accumulated pain . . . (of) a negative energy field that occupies your body and mind. If you look on it as an invisible entity in its own right, you are getting quite close to the truth . . . It has two modes of being: dormant and active. . . . The pain body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it. It can then rise up, take you over, ‘become you,’ and live through you. It needs to get its 'food' through you. It will feed on any experience that resonates with its own kind of energy, anything that creates further pain in whatever form: anger, destructiveness, hatred, grief, emotional drama, violence, and even illness.”[6]  It goes hand in hand with the ego and can be understood as being a part of it.  An active pain body is very easy to witness when in the presence of a “Difficult Person” – an angry person, a constant complainer, an abusive partner, etc.  Lisette Larkins, in her book entitled Difficult People, A Gateway to Enlightenment,[7] references Tolle’s work and details her own experience and spiritual evolution resulting from her work as a caregiver for an Alzheimer’s patient.  She talks about not only how to deal with such a person by healing oneself, but most importantly, she addresses how we all have these same processes going on in our own minds.  Most of us just have relatively the same level of dysfunction, so we think of it as being “normal.”  Well, it may be normal in the sense that most of us are roughly equally dysfunctional, but it is still dysfunctional and is not healthy.  It is a roadblock on the highway to spiritual enlightenment and is another source of internal conflict, as well as conflict in our relationships and with humanity in general.  Ms. Larkins details a process whereby we can dissolve it – along with the rest of the ego.  It is a beautiful journey, and a shortcut on the path to a life of love and unbridled joy on this planet, in this lifetime.  I give reading the book my highest possible recommendation.

Ms. Larkins also addresses the tendency to resist the flow of life – to lament the path of the river of life events and push at the banks trying to change the course rather than simply navigate it.  Changes in the course of life are all for our soul’s benefit, even though our minds often fight against it, and either refuse to see it, or delay our recognition of it.  Such was the case with her charge who was stricken with Alzheimer’s.  I too am guilty.

Part of Ms. Larkins’ technique for dissolving our ego and finding who we really are – our souls – is to identify our “Roles, Forms and Attributes.”  Seeing these as our identity is a product of the mind and the ego, and they are not who we are, though our minds have convinced us otherwise.  Ms. Larkins’ details a process for identifying one’s own roles, forms and attributes, then meditating, and seeing ourselves without them.  The result is you will find your true self. 

Many sages, prophets and experiencers tell us that no matter what we try to manifest, or what course we have placed ourselves on, our soul will call to itself what it needs in order for to move forward on the path towards enlightenment.  If we fight against our soul’s path, it will make a correction by calling in the necessary experience or event.  I witnessed this first hand in my life, and as I reflected on it, I saw the genius and beauty of it, and it filled me with love and joy. 

In the end, unless we die suddenly, we find the way to our true selves through aging.  As we grow old, most of us lose our ability to do our jobs (a role).  We may lose our new cars or our homes, our savings, or other valued physical things (forms).  We all lose our youthful appearance and physical abilities (attributes).  Once those are all gone, we are left with our old body and - if our minds are not fighting against the course of the river - our true selves.  Some of us resist and bemoan the loss of these things. We fail to see the light, love, peace and joy that is right there in front of us. If only we could all realize none of those things are who we are, but are products of the mind and a false identity.  Those that do see the beauty of it pass gracefully from this life.  They start on the road to either another, life, or perhaps to a role as a spirit guide, or both.  I’m not saying it is wrong to love your job, to have nice things, or be healthy and fit.  I’m only suggesting that when faced with losses of these, navigate the river with love and a sense of adventure over what is yet to come, knowing that you are Devine, loved, perfect, and that the universe has your back.

But why wait until you are old for all of this?  Why continue to live a life under a false identity – one that the ego has convinced you is the nature of your worth?  Why not enjoy a life of complete joy right now?  There is so much more out there.  Dissolve your ego, wrest control of your life back from your mind, and know your soul.  



Updated: March 12, 2018


[1] Larkins, Lisette. Above and Beyond: The Incredible True Story of Extraterrestrial Contact (Kindle Locations 1219-1221). Rainbow Ridge Books. Kindle Edition.

[2] ibid

[3]:  Difference Between Mind and Soul | Difference Between


[4] Kumar, Gian, “What's the relationship between body, mind and soul?”, September 15, 2016, retrieved November 2, 2017 from



[5]Kahn, Matt. Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins with You (Kindle Location 1405). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.

[6] Tolle, Eckhart, “The pain body,” 2004-20013, retrieved 11/03/17 from

[7]Larkins, Lisette. Difficult People (Kindle Locations 2-7). Rainbow Ridge Books. Kindle Edition.